Same - and also Lemmygrad.ml, both of which I replied to someone and then had to endure WEEKS and WEEKS (each) of replies of a ridiculous nature. Like who would send someone tens and tens and tens of replies, WEEKS later, who is acting in good faith? Obviously that is a “dunking”, done for their emotional benefit, rather than an attempt to actually change my mind. Well they did manage to change my mind though… about them.:-)

And that started me thinking that if Lemmy was going to be just exactly like Reddit, then I wanted no part of it… and I too came within a hairsbreadth of quitting it, before I realized that I could just block the worst of it and then the rest of the content here is actually pretty great.

So now I don’t blame new people who don’t know that - how would/could they? If we allow each new person to be hazed like that as they enter, then we have no basis for complaining later on when nobody wants to come back.

I contribute, quite a lot actually (possibly too much for the tastes of some?:-P no seriously, I do halfway mean that) - but usually as comments rather than posts.

I try to liven up the Fediverse by including graphics, to make scrolling through comments more fun and less just walls of dry text. Though I also add long walls of dry text myself from time to time as well - we gotta have variety!:-)

I tend to not judge well when to actually do a post though. Btw, do you know why I am able to see both up- and down-vote counts from a mobile webpage view, but not from a desktop one? That is so odd…

Anyway, here is one example, where the video literally received critical acclaim (as being in the top 50 videos fighting against misinformation on the internet), yet that community gave it only 7 upvotes and 5 downvotes total. I also crossposted it to a larger community, which gave it 15 upvotes and 9 downvotes. In both cases, the only comments were negative. Mind you, I actually appreciated the feedback - and thanked the people who offered it, even when saying “…title is garbage, and so I have to downvote”, b/c at least it offered an explanation as to why people were downvoting, and I genuinely enjoyed being corrected by them (rather than merely wondering internally what happened).

Similarly I offered some videos from Adam Connover criticizing Trump - I remember he had some cool stuff in the past, like explaining the broken system of tax software in the US, so I don’t know if he’s still considered “good”, but I offered. It got 3 downvotes… and zero upvotes (beyond my own added by the Lemmy software by default, so one total).

I offered another video on viruses, which got 7 upvotes and 4 downvotes. Oopsie someone else had just posted it like an hour before me, but that does not explain the poor reception b/c theirs received the same treatment.

I offered another one that I saw on imgur which I thought was REALLY cool, someone offering an explanation on indigenous peoples’ belief structures surrounding dancing, it was short (<1 minute), and had nice calming music in the background. Though I was not sure how to link to it directly, so people would have to scroll down past 4 other images/videos to find it using the link. It got 5 upvotes and 2 downvotes.

Mind you, there is no point in me “complaining” (whinging) here - that’s not what this is about. When someone continually offers what is not desired to be received, words like “insensitive” or even “stalker” come to mind. Sorting the posts to those communities by popularity, most seem to relate to Technology especially Linux. While in contrast, Adam Connover seems to not be popular.:-) In fact, if I sort by Controversial, most of my absolute favorite content appears there, having been HEAVILY down-voted - e.g. Innuendo Studios’ Alt-Right Playbook.

From this I can conclude that there are some slight technical barriers to posting - and to assessing after-the-fact how posts are received - but mainly people need to offer posts that MATCH what the community desires. And some, like !poetry@lemmy.world, barely get any posts (that one ~1 per day, the vast majority of the time from a single poster, BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world), but that can be okay b/c a small, niche community is not necessarily “bad”… HOWEVER, small communities are SIGNIFICANTLY harder to find. You personally have been doing heroic efforts to both get the word out about those, and create them in the first place, and guide people to where they are. But there are limitations in the software that are difficult to get around.

Like… what is this “eye” icon that I see in 0.19.5? Was it there in 0.19.3? When I click it, it doesn’t seem to do anything? Except on a desktop it takes me to the top of the page, thus hindering (slightly) my efforts to figure it out. I do recall somewhere an announcement that Lemmy would offer an option to only show posts that I haven’t seen before - but if that is what this is supposed to do, then it is buggy as hell b/c it definitely shows things (either way) that I have visited before, not only by expanding the image but the title is literally greyed out so the browser knows that I’ve seen it, it’s just Lemmy that seems to not know. And as we both know, documentation for how to use Lemmy - especially the web UI rather than an app - is virtually nonexistent, despite both of our efforts asking various instance admins to put e.g. !newtolemmy@lemmy.ca into the right-hand sidebar or mention it in the welcoming posts for an instance meta/admin community. Btw this eye icon thing would be a fantastic post to put into !newtolemmy@lemmy.ca, except I for one have no clue what this feature is even about, and anyway the right-hand bar says that there’s only 2 visitors per week (which I suspect are both me, from here + from my alt on startrek.website).

This is long, but I did not want you think that I was ignoring you. “Just post” is far too simple a solution - there are reason why I, and by extension others (though surely for other reasons - well, some are likely shared in common while others are likely to be distinct) do not do it more often than we do currently. Most notably: it is simply not fun, if people do not wish to hear what we have to say. Though I tend to do better in comments - often I am literally the only person to have offered a comment at all, or perhaps one of like 3-5, and I am glad to (try to) help make the Fediverse a moar welcoming place for people to post to!:-)

As an American myself, perhaps I can help explain this. We are more divided than ever before, with one side literally spouting neo-nazi propaganda (and both sides aiding genocide), and many of us expect if not quite a full-on civil war, then at least some kind of “Constitutional event” akin to the January 5 riot at the capitol to take place in the next few months.

Though whether that ever comes or not, our democracy has already fallen. For one thing, the recent(-ish) SCOTUS ruling a few months ago allows the President to literally assassinate their political rivals, fully legally, with very little oversight (I’m not aware of the particulars tho), thereby giving them (whether they ever choose to use it or not) the powers of a totalitarian dictator. And this barely scratches the surface of what all is going on with our judicial branch…

And for another, every single year Congress refuses to pass a financial budget, instead kicking it forward for months at a time as they bicker about the details, though more importantly, one side considers this obstructionism a “victory” - and this same side is the one actually putting out the call for a full-on Civil War, no joke. And this as well barely begins to scratch the surface of all the brokenness of our legislative branch…

And too the over-turning of Roe v. Wade, like the handling of the pandemic, has scared people. The same person smiling sweetly across the table as you eat Thanksgiving dinner (American holiday celebrating the “discovery”, prior to the slaughter of the “Indians”, by the “Saint” Christopher Columbus) is the very self-same one who if you die in the next couple of years, they were someone who helped make it happen. As in: if you don’t want an abortion, then don’t get one, but preventing others from getting not only “abortions”, but from removing things like cancerous masses in the uterus or even already-dead, necrotic and rotting fetus left-over material, b/c of someone’s fucked-up definition of what an “abortion” is. Someone who btw does not have an M.D., a Ph.D., a J.D., or any other kind of professional degree that would lend towards understanding what a “fetus” is or is not, and instead rants and raves spouting nonsense about “Jewish space lasers” and the like.

This shit is literally life and death for us. School shootings are real - and not merely limited to schools, but also shopping centers, theaters, and the like. Heck, the former president has already had two very inept assassination attempts already. We are a nation in turmoil, having already received what looks to be a fatal wound, and now just waiting to die and/or see whatever will come next. Our votes barely matter, as regardless of who we put in, the wealthy elite control them - e.g. 90% of people want some form of responsible gun control laws, yet time after time voters put people into place who will enact them yet it never happens, those people going in get bribed or blocked and then never manage to get it done, thus leaving our children to be sacrificed to the alter of greed. And ignorance. And especially obstinacy.

But setting aside all of the above, conservatives tend to be not very “fun” to talk to. I don’t even mean true “conservatives” but rather what ended up replacing most of them, first with the Alt-Right that replaced socioeconomic conservatism (e.g. progressive conservativism from the Bush era gave way to the likes of Mitt Romney and Ted Cruz) and now with the Trump-focused Maga (+ the likes of Marjorie Taylor Green, and outside of politics people like Alex Jones and Joe Rogan). If you watch Innuendo Studios’ The Alt-Right Playbook you can see a large litany of “tactics” used to control and twist every conversation, which often do things such as ignore most of what the other person said while hyper-focusing on a singular aspect that they then twist and distort to unrecognizable proportions before preemptively claiming “victory”. Seriously, I’ve genuinely had better conversations with 5-year-old children.

That doesn’t mean that people “like” the Democrat, left-leaning party, with its neoliberal attitudes of only pretending to care about the common man while instead enriching the wealthy, it just means that many people - especially educated ones such as we see more often on the Fediverse - “dislike” the Republican, right-leaning party, with its neoconservative attitudes of only pretending to care about the common man while instead enriching the wealthy, oh and also killing people (e.g. blocking abortions) on top of that.

I don’t think most people would mind debating a real conservative though? One who was respectful and perhaps even kind? Especially if they stuck to factual argumentation rather than made-up “alternative facts” bullshit. It’s just that those are so exceedingly rare as to barely exist these days. But look around - I have seen entire communities devoted to such things, and as you pointed out there are entire instances that are dedicated to them as well. Also there’s Truth Social, X, and most mainstream news sources that at least offer that POV a platform - e.g. the second presidential debate with Kamala Harris lacking real-time fact checking, thereby letting Trump say just whatever he wants at any given moment. Truthfully, I do not feel that “conservative” POVs are in any way in danger of dying off. Though that does not mean that it is welcomed into every single spot across the entire internet either.

Conversations must be held in good faith. Conservatives often refuse to do so. Hence, the defederation has little to do with them being “conservative”, and much to do with them being “toxic” (although those two things are not entirely unrelated…).