Where are you rn fellow girls?

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.worldOP
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      27 days ago

      Would you want to be a girl in nonsexual situations? When driving to work or sitting alone, would it still be fun to be feminine? You can definitely live as a man and have sex as woman, but would you be disappointed if that’s all it is?

      • Linnelou@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        26 days ago

        I’m comfortable living as a man, and before I imagined myself as a woman in sexual situations I had never thought about it. I think I’m a bit ignorant as to what affect gender has on nonsexual situations. Like how does having boobs or not change anything when you’re just sitting alone?
        I just don’t think I care that much about my body either way.

        • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.worldOP
          3·
          26 days ago

          For me, I just feel more comfortable existing in the world as a woman. There’s no logic behind it; it just is. I feel depressed when I feel like a man in any situation, but I didn’t know that for most of my life. I just thought being miserable was normal. I didn’t even think I would want to be a girl until I was an adult. I had to experiment to figure that out.

          I liked myself as a woman in sexual situations, but it turned out that I wanted to be a woman in all situations. As terrifying as upending my sense of self was, I’m finally happy.

          Like I said, there is literally nothing wrong with having a fem kink. Kinks have been incorrectly demonized by science due to cultural biases against sexuality. Unless it hurts you or someone else, there’s nothing pathological about it. It also doesn’t mean you have to commit to a gender that isn’t right for you. Do what makes you happy! ❤

      • luciferofastora@lemmy.zip
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        1 month ago

        Denial (“I feel comfortable being addressed and seen as a guy, so I can’t be enby”)
        Anger (“Why do people always ignore the ‘it’ in ‘it/he’?”)
        Bargaining (“I just care a lot about respecting pronouns, so that’s why I get upset. I’m just doing this to add to enby visibility, because I don’t really mind.”)
        Depression (“I suppose people just don’t like referring to humans with pronouns normay used for objects, that’s just how it is”)
        Acceptance (“Okay I definitely feel good about being called ‘it’, so I’m probably agender”)

        Bargaining again (“Maybe I’m some in-between? Not really cis, but not really enby either?”)
        Proceeds to cycle between Denial, Bargaining, Acceptance and Bargaining again, with Anger and Depression playing a constant tug-of-war as backdrop

        Insert meme of mother yelling at her kid “Why can’t you just be normal”, but it’s me yelling at my Identity “Why can’t you just be simple”