• Duenan@aussie.zone
    12·
    1 month ago

    I have a problem with overthinking about things and events that occur or may occur as a result of something.

    It’s definitely one of the things that gives me a great amount of stress and anxiety.

    I keep thinking about things and the possibilities and sometimes bad or unpleasant things that happen stay in my mind for quite awhile.

    I don’t quite know how to handle those feelings and what I should do.

    It’s been suggested that I just move past things and forget, or distract myself to take my mind off of things or I be more stubborn about my own feelings and harden up?

    There’s been other things, like for example I followed all the steps and did things as soon as I realised or possible and I still get blamed for not doing it soon enough and copped some barbed words, I know it wasn’t my fault but still it bothers me. (That was what I was stressing about)

    There’s possibly more to come in the future as the problem hasn’t come close to be resolved and I hope I don’t keep thinking about what might happen.

    Apologies for the rant.

    • Pilk@aussie.zone
      7·
      1 month ago

      This is very human behaviour, totally normal.

      What helps me with this specifically is saying “What if it all works out?” or the similar inverse of whatever your worry is. “I might fuck up my interview and say something dumb” becomes “What if we get on so well, they toss out their questions and we just start chatting like old friends?”

      It’s not like 🕉️ woowoo positive ✨ mantras ✨and manifestation stuff. It’s literally tricking you brain to make good chemicals instead of bad ones.

      • Duenan@aussie.zone
        4·
        1 month ago

        For awhile I spent some time with just a movie on in the background and I was scrolling through some happy posts.

        Then I distracted myself with some food and a few rounds of Balatro.

        Looking for something else to do for a bit then I’ll head to bed.

        I think it’s just a bunch of bad stuff happening lately all at once that’s making me feel overwhelmed.

      • Duenan@aussie.zone
        2·
        1 month ago

        Some aspects of it seems to describe me.

        I do get hung up about events that make me feel crap or if I treat someone badly but in some ways I make peace with it that I have a conscience and knowingly think about my actions and recognise what to treat and be treated appropriately.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
      5·
      1 month ago

      I still get blamed for not doing it soon enough and copped some barbed words, I know it wasn’t my fault but still it bothers me.

      what would bother me is not my performance but the person blaming me , that’s where I would put my focus

      a mature and nice person doesn’t blame others for events out their control

      • just_kitten@aussie.zone
        4·
        1 month ago

        +++++

        It took me so long to start thinking like this but my last boss woke me up to this fact. I have such infinitely better managers now and I could almost laugh at how hard I tried to please unreasonable people.

        • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
          5·
          1 month ago

          I think I used to be like that too. I would feel terribly puzzled as I objectively knew I was doing ok. It’s so hard to accept that other people might not be truthful and might even be mean. I think mean people rely on that.

          And it’s not naivete when we are in situations where we should reasonably expect to trust people to be good, to think it’s naivete is blaming the victim. I wouldn’t trust a stranger but people I know or work with, then I should be able to.

          The blame is on them for exploiting a work relationship.

      • Duenan@aussie.zone
        3·
        1 month ago

        I know he’s an asshole but it doesn’t really make me feel any better about it sometimes.

  • Duenan@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 month ago

    Finally managed to get a hold of one of my friends.

    Been an unlucky day where I’ve been able to reach anyone.

    Just talking a little bit on the phone helped me a little bit with my stress and anxiety.

    I’m so grateful to be able to do that but I hope he’ll be able to call me back to talk more as I know he’s been busy.

  • just_kitten@aussie.zone
    121·
    1 month ago

    Massive lovely win for today: blood test results back in record time, everything’s good, new MH plan and a really nice chilled out chat with the Dr… and he bulk billed me!!! Ahhh!!! That’s like Christmas come early these days given that the gap fee is like 60 (70 after 5pm).

    …I hate how American that sounds, having to jump for joy at cheaper healthcare based onto the whim of someone else :(

    Have been craving mee goreng something heinous this afternoon so treating myself to a nice spicy bowl on Victoria St. This place is always legit. I am riding the high of Nice Things until I can get my kitchen sorted our very soon…

    yum

    E: saw my old place listed for sale barely a week after I moved out. Well, I’m glad that they’re genuinely selling it and not trying to get new tenants at higher prices. LL better be grateful that I’ve let her get it on the market so quickly and at a good time of the year…

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 month ago

      I have to admit after seeing that photo I nearly booked up some egg noodles and mixed random sauces together.

      I caved and went for frankfurts with bread instead.

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zoneEnglish
    11·
    1 month ago

    I had a meeting with the general manager who’s leaving. He admitted we have too much work.

    So I’m going to my manager this week and talking to her. At this stage, to keep up, I’d have to be working outside of office hours. And that isn’t happening.

  • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
    11·
    1 month ago

    G’day from Penola, peeps

    We’re running a little early, although had to sacrifice a few itinerary items because of a tyre blowout before 9am, lol

    Massive pothole somewhere in the Moyne LGA. Didn’t see it. 100km/h. Wheel absolutely fucked. I mean absolutely fucked, the rim has a massive dent in it, so it’s not just the wheel. No Bueno. We’ve stopped at about 5 places now, nobody has the rim we need. Currently pissing people off doing 80 down a major road towards Naracoorte (stupid space saving efficiency 80km/h restricted tyre thing). Oh well. Not much choice but to hope Naracoorte or Bordertown are able to help us, or leave it til tomorrow after we get to Adelaide

    Stopped at a station called Kalangadoo. Fucking beautifully preserved. A bloke there has invested some major time and money into keeping it preserved (there’s an ABC article about him and the station, will send pics tomorrow when I have better service). He gave us a 2 hour tour and showed us soooooo much cool stuff. When I get back home, I’m going to post him a couple of the Vic things I’ve collected and some photos from our side of the country in case he’s interested (he did have some Vic stuff, mostly the more fascinating things, so I don’t think he’d mind, even if it’s not from his neck of the woods). Ripper of a bloke

    • TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zoneEnglish
      7·
      1 month ago

      Isn’t it lovely when you meet someone truly positive! There’s something about trains and train stations - it seems to bring out the best in people. Naracoorte has wunnderful caves - full to busting with fossils of thylacaleos and diprotodons and other cool stuff. If your itinerary permits, a visit to the caves is a MUST! Or a second visit just to do that …

      EDIT: forgot to mention the mihirungs. Which are awesome. @AlamutJones’s Chook would be jealous.

      • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
        2·
        1 month ago

        Unfortunately we didn’t have time to stop in at Naracoorte, we’re already kinda pushing our time a bit, and we come back a different way. But thanks for the recco, I’ll keep it in the back of my mind until I’m out this way again!

        Btw what are mihirungs? A bug?

        • TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zoneEnglish
          1·
          1 month ago

          Mihirungs are walloping great mega duck like birds. Like really really big. Extinct, which is a pity. Sometimes called thunder birds or demon ducks. Up to 3 metres tall with ginormous beaks.

      • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
        2·
        1 month ago

        the caves are awesome , I had a look online and the parks have really improved the experience , looks so cool now, when I went it was basically go in the cave and a guide would give a talk

        i took young miss seagoon many years ago

      • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
        3·
        1 month ago

        Oh yeah I should’ve added, V grateful for not losing control. It was a fucked pothole on a bit of a curve. The tyre rim absorbing so much of the impact also means I didn’t end up with a concussion

  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 month ago

    Sort of fucked up yesterday.

    Had ‘a go’ at the ol’ man about the way he’s trying to tackle his little fence dispute (on top of everything else). Basically long winded combative emails to the neighbour. Problem is the neighbour appears to have literacy issues judging by the way he writes (so they need to be short and to the point).

    Anyway so when you have a go, let’s just say he’s not the sort of person that will take criticism.

    So he stood up, calmly said he’s going for a walk. That shit never happens it’s always far more heated.

    On the one hand I shouldn’t have done that right now and just let it be, on the other it shows where his head is with respect to mum’s issues. It’s a completely unrelated issue (a fence and medical stuff) but it definitely says something.

    I have no idea how to support someone like him emotionally through this (not the fence but mum heh). He’s got a bunch of garden / house shit he’s doing which is his ‘escape’ but I can tell it’s really taking its toll.

    • imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 month ago

      You are both under stress and it will happen. Don’t dwell on it. Maybe a quiet “Sorry if I came across harsh over the fence thing, let me know if you need anything” and move on.

  • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
    10·
    1 month ago

    I’ve been dancing with my cat and singing ‘When you’re a Jet’ from West Side Story, but swapping it to ‘When you’re a Cat’. I’m sure he loves it.

  • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
    10·
    1 month ago

    Beautiful sunset out these ways, same in melbs?

    The tyre, btw:

    Nobody in Heywood, Mount Gambier, Naracoorte, or Bordertown either had a replacement rim available, or could buff out the dent same day. That was an absolutely cooked pothole, but we got out of it safely. Still, we’ve had to do about 350km with another 150 to adelaide on the space saving 80k tyre. I don’t think they’re meant to be driven that far, but we don’t have a lot of choice. We’ll find somewhere in Adelaide tomorrow I guess. We’re nearly in Tailem Bend, and about 2 hours away from our hotel in Adelaide

    Tomorrow was an intentionally blank day, I basically just want to get some postcards and stamps, nothing else planned yet. So having to spend the day waiting for a new wheel is no biggie. We’re hoping to find an auto wrecker or something that has this model of car we can just buy a tyre off, and fix this tyre when we get back to Melbourne. But otherwise, it’s a steel rim, so somebody can just carefully hammer it out for us, that just takes longer

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 month ago

      Damn, that wheel looks fucked! I’d be so anxious about driving on the spare for that long (I had to drive on mine recently for like 15kms here and there all up and was having kittens). Fingers crossed no more potholes here on out and that you can get a new wheel soon!

      No pretty sunset out here, too foggy

      • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
        4·
        1 month ago

        Ah, no good. Sunset was stunning out here!

        Yeah, the wheel is making me a bit anxious, too. But we’re almost there, not much we can do ig

  • Baku@aussie.zoneEnglish
    6·
    1 month ago

    Made it to the hotel safe and sound. The hotel room is super hot, but decent