• tpyo@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    That would indicate your mom cheated as well? Not sure exactly what your dad cheating has to do with your DNA. Wouldn’t it be better to find out he wasn’t your dad if he was so shitty?

    • RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
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      22 days ago

      We do not want to find my father’s illegitimate children. He was our father, as our mother never cheated.

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        20 days ago

        I’m very sorry I didn’t think of this context. I wasn’t being daft intentionally, it just didn’t occur to me when I was trying to figure out the situation

        I can understand now. Thank you for sharing and gently explaining the situation

        (I’m also very, very sorry to have implied your mother had cheated in that scenario. I did not mean to cast shade on her character)

        • RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
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          20 days ago

          You are much more polite than the person who was much more condescending about my mother. It’s fine.

          I know for facts my mother never cheated. Mother is at an age I have increasing access to medical records of previous…attempts at children. Which lines up entirely with things my father talked about, and how delighted they were when we were born. Also, my father, for his faults, absolutely could spot another cheater at 50 paces and knew my mother did not.

          Also she was like. The only person at home, working in education with long hours and then taking care of us, so if she did cheat, like. Damn, she was really finding the time somehow taking care of terrible twins.

      • TheFogan@programming.dev
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        22 days ago

        our mother never cheated.

        That you know of, or care to know of. To be fair that’s a better reason to not do it. You know your dad is a piece of shit apparently, your mom you have a good image of, and no benefit to the image being tarnished after it matters.

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          21 days ago

          That you know of, or care to know of.

          Yes, but also who cares. No need to point out that “technically there’s always a chance” because you can do that for basically anything.

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        22 days ago

        How does that work? The lab puts you in contact with people they know share your DNA?

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          22 days ago

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      • tpyo@lemmy.world
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        20 days ago

        Thank you; I’m sorry I missed that broader context. I try to think critically about what I read and sometimes I struggle with widening my scope of thinking