Xmas, new year, valentine’s… Seems like the festivities are there just to remind me how much I failed as an adult man incapable of getting company. It’s been over a decade since I’ve felt this way and nothing changes.

Alcohol and porn has lost its charm over the years.

  • EABOD25@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    38
    ·
    2 days ago

    Not lonely anymore, but I spent about 10 years having every single holiday by myself. What worked for me personally was either ignore the holiday or just have an all-out bash on my own. I understand how it might not work for other people but celebrating on my own helped me learn that I should value my own time and appreciate what I can do for myself. If I ignored the holiday, it was because I didn’t want to cook for myself.

    There’s no problem being alone as long as you value and appreciate what you can do alone.

    Now with that being said, I spend the majority of my time with my wife now and she respects my time and space the way it is. I wouldn’t have been able to find that if I didn’t first respect myself and my own time and space

    • RedditWanderer@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      15
      ·
      edit-2
      2 days ago

      The bird will never land if you constantly stand guard to catch it, instead improve your ship and sail into warmer waters; the bird will land while you are not looking - CGP Grey