Instead of “I’m autistic” say “I was diagnosed with autism”.
These days there’s no shortage of self-diagnosed, no professional opinion needed, thank you very much youngsters walking around and behaving like world owes them a thing, just because they neither do, nor want to fit into the society. This makes neurotypical people doubtful about declarations like that.
So let all people who cannot afford a diagnosis go fuck themselves, right?
nor want to fit into the society
The more power to them. This society is disgusting, and it’s people who want society to evolve according to their values the ones who change it for the better, not the ones who go through life bowing their head to injustices.
So let all people who cannot afford a diagnosis go fuck themselves, right?
That’s very peculiar, and very angry approach, entirely uncalled for. And the answer is: no.
This society is disgusting,
The society is the cruelest thing at its worst and the most beautiful at its best. It’s also very fragile and it tends to protect itself against every chaotic element that tries to enter it.
If you dislike the society that much, you’re free to resign from everything it has to offer and move where it cannot reach you. If you don’t want, or can’t then it’s advisable to study its ways, so that you won’t feel threatened by it.
I wasn’t going to get involved, but you’ve touched on my special interest. My question: Where, exactly, would that be? There is no extrinsic margin any more. Hasn’t been in North America for over a century, and the rest of the world for at least half a millennium. (And even America’s margin came at the expense of people who were already living there.)
As a real-world example: My brother in law moved to a very small, dull place some hour of travel away from the nearest city. There are houses there, but they are few and far between. He and his wife interact with less than 5 persons per week. Their life consists of taking care of their household and remote jobs that involve very little human interaction. He recently taught himself a bit about woodworking and he becomes very good at that every day.
The gist of it is that people imagine some icy peak of some unreachable mountain as the place they should select for their refugee, solace from the society. This is entirely wrong way of thinking. All you need is to search for a place with as little people as possible. And these aren’t as scarce as one could think.
I fully understand wanting to avoid self-diagnoses for attention seeking or blame avoiding purposes, but I tend to lean towards believing people first.
One, because there is always going to be a discrepancy between the population of the accurately diagnosed and people who have a condition, because of poor access to mental health, because of the stigma attached with seeking help for and admitting to having a disorder, cultural differences in diagnoses and because there are poorly trained mental health professionals.
And two, because rejecting people outright when they share what may or may not be a serious problem they’re facing puts them on the defensive and tells people in the vicinity that you may not be a safe person or contribute to a safe place to express themselves.
The average person is going to be doubtful anyways, unless you fit into their understanding of your expressed condition. How many times have we heard “how could he kill himself, he seemed so happy?”
I didn’t get my audhd dx until i was 28 but i feel like i always knew, and i think my life might’ve been sightly less miserable in general if id just allowed myself to accept a self-diagnosis. the attitude of “you just want to be special” seriously fucked me up lmfao.
Completely agree with this. Also, as this meme suggests, most people who are autistic don’t really need to say it out loud for people who know what autism is to know they have it. You don’t need a diagnosis to exhibit behaviors that are obvious to everyone else around you. A diagnosis doesn’t suddenly make you something you weren’t already.
It takes a strong support system to accept and embrace that their child is autistic and a firm commitment for the entire rest of their childhood to doing whats best for the within that context. The amount of parents who simply outright reject that “something might be wrong” with their kid is extremely high, even now. That doesn’t make the kid any less autistic because they haven’t been diagnosed, and it doesn’t make their symptoms any less obvious either.
Yes, hopefully people can get diagnosed, and hopefully your city has adequate resources to help them, and hopefully the parents aren’t jerks, and hopefully the place you live isn’t full of conspiracy theorists and crackpot religious leaders who think just praying for the kid is good enough. Hopefully. But if not, you just might have an undiagnosed autistic teenager who’s life is spinning out of control and the last thing they need is some internet expert’s dumb ass telling them there is nothing wrong because they didn’t get the magical diagnosis. Speaking from experience.
Your argument is that self-diagnosis causes the average person to be doubtful of expressed diagnoses. Mine is that it’s not self-diagnosis, it’s expression outside of what the average person understands a condition to be that has them doubting.
And yes, I have been diagnosed and then been told that the diagnosis was wrong because I don’t “fit” what people think. So, yeah, I have tried, and that’s why I’m making the argument I am, because that’s what happened. If your experience has been better…great? Maybe you fit the mold better than I do.
I say “I’m autistic” at least 40% specifically to avoid people like you and weird gatekeeping crap, despite having been diagnosed for a long time.
You will never be “one of the good ones” and trying to force yourself to fit a mould, and shitting on other people who are less amenable/able to going through the entire structure, in a hostile and repressive and cruel society will not make them treat you better or provide accommodations more. <.<
I’m not getting into all the other issues with shitting on self diagnosis around class and accessibility and discrimination (direct or intersectional, e.g. trying to strip trans rights from autistic trans people, where diagnosis is actually dangerous, and people choose to avoid it if they have the option to do so even if they seriously struggle with negative aspects of being autistic) and hyperpathologisation and accusing people of being FaKErS because they aren’t sufficiently miserable/self-loathing/self-hating or don’t post their negative moments/experiences online. Autistic people are allowed to be happy and express it publically.
Honestly just sick and tired of seeing this shit in every single space I want to be part of, and pissed off ;p. I hoped this shit died when we collectively told Autism Speaks to fuck off, but apparently that was way too goddamn optimistic.
Instead of “I’m autistic” say “I was diagnosed with autism”.
These days there’s no shortage of self-diagnosed, no professional opinion needed, thank you very much youngsters walking around and behaving like world owes them a thing, just because they neither do, nor want to fit into the society. This makes neurotypical people doubtful about declarations like that.
No. I am autistic, I wasn’t diagnosed with a disease. There’s a difference!
So let all people who cannot afford a diagnosis go fuck themselves, right?
The more power to them. This society is disgusting, and it’s people who want society to evolve according to their values the ones who change it for the better, not the ones who go through life bowing their head to injustices.
That’s very peculiar, and very angry approach, entirely uncalled for. And the answer is: no.
The society is the cruelest thing at its worst and the most beautiful at its best. It’s also very fragile and it tends to protect itself against every chaotic element that tries to enter it.
If you dislike the society that much, you’re free to resign from everything it has to offer and move where it cannot reach you. If you don’t want, or can’t then it’s advisable to study its ways, so that you won’t feel threatened by it.
I wasn’t going to get involved, but you’ve touched on my special interest. My question: Where, exactly, would that be? There is no extrinsic margin any more. Hasn’t been in North America for over a century, and the rest of the world for at least half a millennium. (And even America’s margin came at the expense of people who were already living there.)
It depends very much on your precise location.
As a real-world example: My brother in law moved to a very small, dull place some hour of travel away from the nearest city. There are houses there, but they are few and far between. He and his wife interact with less than 5 persons per week. Their life consists of taking care of their household and remote jobs that involve very little human interaction. He recently taught himself a bit about woodworking and he becomes very good at that every day.
The gist of it is that people imagine some icy peak of some unreachable mountain as the place they should select for their refugee, solace from the society. This is entirely wrong way of thinking. All you need is to search for a place with as little people as possible. And these aren’t as scarce as one could think.
I fully understand wanting to avoid self-diagnoses for attention seeking or blame avoiding purposes, but I tend to lean towards believing people first.
One, because there is always going to be a discrepancy between the population of the accurately diagnosed and people who have a condition, because of poor access to mental health, because of the stigma attached with seeking help for and admitting to having a disorder, cultural differences in diagnoses and because there are poorly trained mental health professionals.
And two, because rejecting people outright when they share what may or may not be a serious problem they’re facing puts them on the defensive and tells people in the vicinity that you may not be a safe person or contribute to a safe place to express themselves.
The average person is going to be doubtful anyways, unless you fit into their understanding of your expressed condition. How many times have we heard “how could he kill himself, he seemed so happy?”
I didn’t get my audhd dx until i was 28 but i feel like i always knew, and i think my life might’ve been sightly less miserable in general if id just allowed myself to accept a self-diagnosis. the attitude of “you just want to be special” seriously fucked me up lmfao.
Completely agree with this. Also, as this meme suggests, most people who are autistic don’t really need to say it out loud for people who know what autism is to know they have it. You don’t need a diagnosis to exhibit behaviors that are obvious to everyone else around you. A diagnosis doesn’t suddenly make you something you weren’t already.
It takes a strong support system to accept and embrace that their child is autistic and a firm commitment for the entire rest of their childhood to doing whats best for the within that context. The amount of parents who simply outright reject that “something might be wrong” with their kid is extremely high, even now. That doesn’t make the kid any less autistic because they haven’t been diagnosed, and it doesn’t make their symptoms any less obvious either.
Yes, hopefully people can get diagnosed, and hopefully your city has adequate resources to help them, and hopefully the parents aren’t jerks, and hopefully the place you live isn’t full of conspiracy theorists and crackpot religious leaders who think just praying for the kid is good enough. Hopefully. But if not, you just might have an undiagnosed autistic teenager who’s life is spinning out of control and the last thing they need is some internet expert’s dumb ass telling them there is nothing wrong because they didn’t get the magical diagnosis. Speaking from experience.
Try it anyway.
Your argument is that self-diagnosis causes the average person to be doubtful of expressed diagnoses. Mine is that it’s not self-diagnosis, it’s expression outside of what the average person understands a condition to be that has them doubting.
And yes, I have been diagnosed and then been told that the diagnosis was wrong because I don’t “fit” what people think. So, yeah, I have tried, and that’s why I’m making the argument I am, because that’s what happened. If your experience has been better…great? Maybe you fit the mold better than I do.
Shut The Fuck Up Boomer
Ok, kid.
I say “I’m autistic” at least 40% specifically to avoid people like you and weird gatekeeping crap, despite having been diagnosed for a long time.
You will never be “one of the good ones” and trying to force yourself to fit a mould, and shitting on other people who are less amenable/able to going through the entire structure, in a hostile and repressive and cruel society will not make them treat you better or provide accommodations more. <.<
I’m not getting into all the other issues with shitting on self diagnosis around class and accessibility and discrimination (direct or intersectional, e.g. trying to strip trans rights from autistic trans people, where diagnosis is actually dangerous, and people choose to avoid it if they have the option to do so even if they seriously struggle with negative aspects of being autistic) and hyperpathologisation and accusing people of being FaKErS because they aren’t sufficiently miserable/self-loathing/self-hating or don’t post their negative moments/experiences online. Autistic people are allowed to be happy and express it publically.
Honestly just sick and tired of seeing this shit in every single space I want to be part of, and pissed off ;p. I hoped this shit died when we collectively told Autism Speaks to fuck off, but apparently that was way too goddamn optimistic.
You don’t know me.
And since you’re quick to judge, all I can say is “thank heavens”.