How do you guys deal with parenting? My wife had work events all weekend last week so I had to be on point 100% and then continue to all week. Now this weekend we had a girl scout hike and my wife wanted to go to a special event with me in the evening. I haven’t had time for any real solitude for two weeks and am mentally/emotionally drained.
How do you guys deal with this? I feel like a bad parent/partner for not being excited for these things or feelings negative about doing them. Am I expecting too much from myself? I don’t know, thanks for reading anyway.
Investing in a nanny or babysitter to relieve you of duty periodically for even an hour or two is the only thing that keeps all of us sane.
I wish there were more resources for parents instead of the assumption that two people can handle the well being of a child
Look at Moneybags here able to afford a temporary caretaker.
That is good advice, but definitely out of reach for a lot of people.
Thanks for the responses and being here everyone. It really means a lot.
The struggle to get alone/special interest time is really hard as a parent and partner. Eventually my relationship suffered for that and various other reasons, and now I’m divorced. I was married to an NT. Now I’m a single father and it’s still difficult, but I try to find me time after my son is asleep, if I’m not too exhausted.
When I had kids, autism was still for boys. I think I’m in a minority though because I wanted kids a lot. So I see them as independent extensions of myself. I didn’t get the socialization issues with them, and would make a point to bring at least one kid when they got older as my support person. They didn’t know this though.
It was actually easier for me to be around other people when they were young because they gave me something to talk about.
