• Player2@sopuli.xyz
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    1 year ago

    Being kind is fine, but I’m not going to thank a random person on the street for not mugging just like I won’t thank a driver for not putting my life in danger. I consider there to be a bare minimum of human behavior that doesn’t require thanks: putting trash in a bin rather than littering, not pissing onto a park bench, following the law for pedestrian crossings, etc.

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      . I consider there to be a bare minimum of human behavior

      And part of that ‘bare minimum’ is acting graciously in your interactions with other people.

      At worst, your giving up two seconds of your day to make someone else feel appreciated.

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        1 year ago

        Maybe there is some confusion - I’m not talking about yelling at a driver following the rules. All I’m saying is that it’s sad people feel like they have to run across the street like animals even though they have the right of way.

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      It’s not even real gratitude. It’s a phatic expression in the same sense as “what’s up” and “how are you?” not actually intending to be a serious question on what’s happening in their life. Expressions like these exist in every language to help with social interaction, in a sense it’s what gives language its human element, beyond just a medium of information transport. Hell even tons of animals have similar types of behaviours so it seems really weird to be so staunchly against this very common and basic kind of communication.

      I fucking hate cars and I still wave drivers who stop simply because that’s the common etiquette. It takes nearly zero effort so it’s more of a why not do it type situation. I genuinely think it’s easier to just do it instead of getting worked up and opposing it because it’s such a simple thing that doesn’t have any negative side effects on you.

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      I’ll nod in thanks to a driver who slows to permit me to cross sooner. Because the alternative is me waiting longer to cross since I will not be commiting suicide to prove a point about ‘right of way’ by stepping in front of their moving car.

      They should stop, but lots don’t…as such I’ll thank those who do. But hey, I also thank the fast food worker for handing me my bag of mcnuggies even though doing so doesn’t really make sense since they have no choice.

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        1 year ago

        No progress will happen in society if everyone is submissive to the people who decided to pilot a death machine that day. I will walk legally and it is their responsibility to stop their vehicle safely, not mine