• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I don’t know that I agree. I feel they should have been more blunt about it. “Although Ms. Daniels did not call it rape, based on her interpretation of events, it would be considered rape if she had agreed to press charges.” Because it would be.

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      6 months ago

      It would be considered rape if the person accused was a poor, non connected person with no promising future.

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        6 months ago

        It would be considered rape if the alleged rapist was poor, or any race other than white. It would probably not be considered rape if the perpetrator was a white man (especially Christian), or a woman.

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      6 months ago

      Thank you. I just had this conversation with my wife.

      Completely agree. Conviction would be hard though. Whether that should be true or not, I think you’d need a specific jury composition to get that conviction.

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        6 months ago

        Conviction would be impossible since the statute of limitations have passed, but that’s hardly the point.

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      6 months ago

      I once had an encounter that I never considered to be rape… just emotionally/psychologically uncomfortable. Until I was telling someone about it, and then it was like the act of hearing my own words made me realize what happened.

      Thankfully, it wasn’t very detrimental to my psyche… but I still don’t much like talking about it, or really thinking about it. Beacuse it turns out, most people would consider that rape; including me when I looked from the outside-in. Abuse takes many forms. Mine just came in the form of emotional that led to physical, and I didn’t even realize what happened for most of that day.

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        6 months ago

        I regularly look back on the sex I have had, even with my wife, and wondered, “did I ever do something that would count as rape?” I don’t think I did. I sincerely hope not, of course. I really think I always had consent from my partner when doing anything sexual, but I can’t prove it. And I don’t have contact with enough of them to ask if I really had the courage to ask, which I don’t.

        So did I ever force someone to have sex with me? I don’t believe I ever did, but it’s possible. And if I ever did, all I can say to that person, if they ever let me know, is that I am deeply sorry for what I did and I can’t ever make up for it, but I would be willing to try.