I’m a dad and keep my damn mouth shut about my work because my other half has to deal with all the shit when I’m gone at work

Well, that seems unhealthy as hell as well. This is the whole stoic to a fault bullshit for both partners now. I’d say vent to your partner and let your partner vent to you about your shitty days. Why live your life together but not be able to share your burdens? Just my two cents though.