• Dorkyd68@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I’m 38. Make 29/hr. I’m fortunate enough to own my home, well rather renting from my bank for the next 16 years. Anyways, I’m barley getting by as well. Between my car payment and the mortgage it’s nearly impossible to get by as a single income household. I can’t even imagine how bad it would be if I had kids.

    It’s to the point where I’d consider dating someone just to cut the bills in half.

    Lol… not seriously, but definitely maybe

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      6 months ago

      You should consider it. If I didn’t have a girlfriend, I would be homeless cause nothing is affordable at $18/hr when you’re alone.

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        6 months ago

        Don’t get me wrong my guy, I’m trying. Dating apps are tge worst. I go through cycles of meeting someone on apps, dating them for a year then they dip out. I’m not so niave to understand that I need to work on myself so I can eventually be a good partner to someone, and I’m doing just that. Therapy yoga meditation etc. However, unfortunately I fear the only way to meet a genuine partner is to meet them while emerging myself in my interests and meeting someone while doing so. However it’s tough out here

        Not trying to sound conceded but I’m handsome and have no problem finding dates, but I’m tired of one nighters. I know the issue of me not being able to settle down with someone lies within me. I’m working on it and hopefully I’ll rope in my forever partner someday soon

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          6 months ago

          Dating apps are garbage. Never had success with them. They’re designed to keep you on the platform for as long as possible, so if you find someone you’re obviously not going to continue using it. You’ll never find love on a dating app.

          The only way to go is organically. Like you implied, you need to go out and meet people. One thing that works for me is to always put on a smile in public, even if you’re miserable (I know I am). It’s makes you more approachable. In my last two relationships I didn’t even have to do anything because women asked me out. That’s how I met my current lover, and we’ve been living together for 4 years now. But for what it’s worth, I’m attractive too. A solid 8.5.

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      6 months ago

      Poly lifestyles are gonna get more common, since soon you’ll need three incomes just to survive!

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      6 months ago

      I saw a meme recently about being polyamorous just because of the financial benefits of having multiple incomes. I’m already poly, but I can see some monogamous poeople considering poly relationships because of money issues.

      It’s terrible that it happens that way sometimes but there’s some truth to that meme.