respecting your Christian buddy at work requires that you respect the ideology enough that it isn’t any sort of deal breaker. it might not be a lot of respect, but there is at least some respect there, and that’s fine. Christianity isn’t exactly a good thing, but it’s not like the vast majority of Christians support its use for oppression. From what I’ve seen, most of them are content with going to church every few weeks, and outside of a few edge cases, that doesn’t really hurt anyone.
“Dealing with the individuals” was probably a bit too sinister a way of saying it, admittedly, but an ideology will always exist while it has followers, and it will continue to gain followers as long as there is nothing discouraging them. In many cases, education is enough to effectively shrink a harmful ideology over time without too much damage, but fascism is entirely too destructive to allow any respect for the people supporting it, without exception.
If you’re trying to point out some contradiction, I’m not seeing it