I usually just improvise and wing it. It stresses my husband out I think. He likes to plan. 😆

Ah yes! How could i forget about waiting mode. This is super fun times right here. 100% recommend!

Both tech and horses here…uh oh. 😂 alas, to damned expensive for horses and did’t get back into tech after i moved to be withvmy husband., decided to randomly pick up horticulture as a career choice instead.

They are in a 20 gallon long right now. Going to be combining my 2 20 gallons into a 55 gal soon. Super excited.

Yep! Me too. 3 is the lucky number here! Though I do suspect living with undiagnosed ADHD my whole life led up to the other two. I’m just a bundle of fun over here.

I just don’t even bother with the Christmas lights. Though i do feel rather called out on the melted pumpkin. I should probably throw that in the compost.

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That is so demeaning! Fragile? Like what? If you have adhd it can make every day things stressful and difficult and dont evem gdt me atarted on self image. I would definitely get a second opinion. Could be you have it, could be you don’t but at least find someone that has more to offer for an explanation than that. It’s exhausting and nerve-wracking for sure but don’t give up.

That is so frustrating. I’m glad your wife finally got help but that must have been stressful for her. Also a 5 minute assessment is just silly, for anyone it should be longer. Funny how they so easily diagnosis it for men without question. Not trying to discount your diagnosis but just wanted to state the hypocrisy between the two evaluations (yours and your wifes).

Thanks for posting this. Definatly resonates. Makes me sad to think of how many women have lived most of their lives struggling more than they should be because it was thought it just wasn’t a thing women had. Barely anybody does studies or research on women,we are just to complicated with our hormones they say. But that is unacceptable. It’s getting better slowly, but we still have a long way to go.

I wasnt diagnosed until this year at 44. It had come up as a suspicion when I was doing a search a few years prior to why I was having certain issues but I didn’t take it serious. Like many I didn’t understand what adhd actually was, just thought it was the stereotypical view most people have. Then a therapist I was seeing for depression this year suggested I get tested. It wasn’t easy, first try was very dismissive and rude, I almost just gave up then, the second time went much better, they actually let me talk and got a proper history from me. I am finally getting help for all my problems, adhd included.

I just want to encourage any women out there that are struggling and think maybe this might be a possibility to at least try to get tested. Don’t suffer in silence. We need to speak up louder when the world won’t listen. I wish you all the best in your journey wherever you are on this path.

I would like to thank you for reminding me that many people have it much worse than I do. It is very true. I did not want to bring up such hardships in this thread. I apologize for my lighthearted attempt at a comment and if it offended you in any way I am sorry. I hope everything is okay for you.

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I spent half the day lost in my phone. 🙄 but I did manage to get the dishes done, a load of laundry and I somehow after that found the motivation to clear out one of the many doom piles in my living room. Just took me forever to get going. Made up for yesterday uselessness I guess.

For food decisions I tell my husband to assign a number to the choices and I just randomly pick a number. I also will use my d&d dice to make choices. Reduces my choice meltdowns considerably. 😊

This is me anytime my husband asks me what I want to do or what I want to eat. Then I get upset when he gives me choices because then he wants me to choose. We have a system in place for the food thing now but some days it is a struggle. I’m sitting here right now trying to figure out what I want to do on this dreary cloudy rainy day. I am not feeling it today either.

I am not one to post much and mostly just lurk sadly. I get a bit stressed out over making comments and posts. I’m just posting right now to say hello and provide my support to this post. I think the ideas people have mentioned are great. Maybe we could start some discussion posts on different topics (adhd related or not, could be women’s stuff or anything really) so people can share their experiences.

I don’t do a lot of commenting but I just wanted to say thank you for putting your foot down on this. It is incredibly disheartening to keep hearing stuff like that. It discourages people from sharing and learning. It dismisses people’s lived experiences and troubles.

Personally I started to have suspicions about a year ago and it wasn’t due to these memes. It was due to real struggles I am having. I hit rock bottom and just got fed up with my crap amd was finally done running from my problems. I never self disgnosed but i atumbled upon an rlarticle o. Adhd when i was trying tonfogute out why inwas so much fail and it resonated so i started reading and then found these communities which I did relate too way to much. And now as of about a month ago I have a diagnosis. The memes did help encourage me to seek help but they where not the sole reason.

Anyways, if someone relates and it encourages them to seek help I see that as a win even if it turns out they don’t have adhd. And even though many people frown on it “self diagnosis” is a first step for many in seeking an official diagnosis. I really don’t understand this mentality of people dismissing ADHD or gatekeeping it. It’s not like people just want to have ADHD. People are here because they either have it, a loved one has it or they may have suspicions.

I just felt like I wanted to say something because this stuff has really been bothering me. Thabk you for trying to keep this a safe space for us all. Much respect.

All the freaking time. Like my brain is like “hey! I’m going to talk! I like talking!” And then suddenly turns on itself and is all “what where you thinking dumbass!? You are just going to make an idiot of yourself again” So then I delete my comment and scroll on. Trying to be better on lemmy so here is my comment.