I’ve been in tech my whole life, first in IT, now I’m a software developer and educated as an engineer. I have an IoT setup because it makes life easier, the security stuff also is a big time deterrent for would-be thieves. I know the stuff isn’t super secure in itself but I don’t get the paranoia, you tote your phone around everywhere, what do you think that’s doing? Also, they only use your data to try to sell you shit, it’s nothing nefarious and if it ever becomes so, it’s time to dump everything and live in the woods.
It’s not personal issues, it’s patriarchal issues. Just about every guy I know past a certain age, myself included, feel the burn from this. You are expected to just give give give and anytime you have needs, including some damn rest, you are looked down on for it and marginalized. You don’t see how much of a dog shit deal this is until you burn out.