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  • That’s exactly the problem we have over here. You can’t become a cop and change the culture. The culture is mandatory. They seek it out and train it it, and the ones who won’t at least turn a blind eye to it aren’t allowed to stay.

    It’s important to also point out that a huge portion of the population carries guns. There’s no reason to assume that someone armed is a threat at all, and statistics bear that out. In the south of the US even most liberals don’t think twice about the number of guns they encounter every day. The reason why police are a unique situation is , obviously, partially because they deal with criminals, and partially because of their confrontational and aggressive approach to most situations. It’s not so much that you got to deal with a good or bad cop. It’s more that you got to deal with a cop in a good or bad mood. They way they choose to interact with you has very little to do with things you can control.





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    I haaaaaate progressive muscle relaxation. They made us do it in school when I was little and I have a mental block about it. I’ve had success with guided meditations on an app called insight timer. I’ve also had success with the worry box technique. If I decide I’m not going to deal with something till another time it goes into the worry box.


  • I had an account with a bank that got bought. Always used the app, which worked fine, but I needed some document I could only get from the website. Go to log in and it gives me all sorts of weird errors. Support made me reset my password, all that stuff. I figured it out. Old bank would let you log in with email or username. New bank only let you log in with username, except it had dropped old bank’s username and put the email in the username field in their database. The website scrubbed emails from that field, and so it submitted a null username. The app didn’t l, so it let me log in. Weirdest issue I’ve ever had with a service and actually figured it out.



  • It’s so frustrating too because the atmosphere, casting, acting, even the characters are really compelling. But they just absolutely refused to take any risks. It’s like they just didn’t get the whole point. Rey needed to become a gray character, and kylo needed to be redeemed. And they both had to live with it and shoulders the burdens of their past. Luke needed to accept that ultimately people are people and you can’t expect to entirely subvert either your baser or more noble emotions and instincts.




  • Hairstyle is a big part of most people’s identity, and a disease, or anyway it’s treatment, strips it away. People shave because their hair falls out like their body is just giving up. With the hair goes the ability to keep your sickness private. Everyone you know, and most people you come into contact with will know you’re going through something big, and they will treat you differently. You’re not you anymore. You’re sick. Friends or family might try to show you it’s not such a big deal by shaving their own heads, but strangers won’t do that.

    Let’s contrast that with trump. His body isn’t failing anymore than it already was. This doesn’t strip him of his identity. If anything it solidifies it. This doesn’t change the way people interact with him. This doesn’t divulge any information about him that wasn’t already public, by his own choice. Given his obvious insecurities, we would know if his ears were one of them and they are not. These people have no personal relationship with him. This isn’t about making him feel better. It’s about these people’s own identity and demonstrating group solidarity.




  • The guy was also pointing his gun at a whole lot of people who weren’t trump. Do you extend your statement to them too because they support trump? At least many of the media weren’t there to support trump. I’m sure at least some people were there to see the spectacle rather than support him. Should their value be disregarded as well just for being around the guy? I get the attitude that trump has asked for this. I don’t think it’s right to say everyone else there asked to be shot at too.

    The basic problem I see is that we keep treating police like it’s their job to protect people and when they don’t we say, nah it’s ok, that’s not your job.



  • I have anxiety as well. I’m not saying that your problem is the same as kine, but I’m going to tell you what happens to me so that maybe it’ll make you worry a little less. I generally have a very slight ringing in my ears. Most people probably wouldn’t notice it but I’m autistic so I do. If I have to increase my dose of antihistamines for my allergies, I will have a noticeable increase and qualitative change in the ringing. If I am overly stressed and my anxiety level is higher than usual, I’ll have more ringing. If I get less sleep than I need I will have an increased ringing. It’s not always the same in both ears either.

    I’m not telling you it’s nothing but stress. That would be irresponsible. I am telling you I get the same symptoms and it’s nothing but stress and usually resolves in a few days once I get myself under control.

    On another note, I would really recommend doing something about your anxiety. Brief high intensity exercise works well, if you can handle it. Guided meditation works well too, even if you hate the whole idea of it (like I do). The best overall remedy is probably to get adequate, good quality sleep, but I know how hard that can be. The easiest immediate relief is blood pressure medicine, if that is an option for you. For instance, if you lay down to rest you should not be able to hear your heart beat. If you can, your blood pressure is too high and you should get it dealt with, because it will absolutely make your anxiety substantially more manageable. Whether or not the anxiety is the problem with your hearing, dealing with it will improve your life, and from one person with anxiety to another: friend, it’s obvious from your post you need some help with this.

    For the time being, if you need a short relief from the ringing, I’ve found that certain types of computer generated noise played through headphones will stop my ringing, at least for a few minutes. You might want to try that, just be careful not to play it too loud.