That’s great to hear! I got back into ice skating too this year. I forgot about the joy it brings and how much I loved this as a kid, lots of good memories skating on the lakes.

I’ll get some rollerskates once temperatures allow for it as a summer alternative.

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Hey, AuDHD person here. Absolutely feel what you’re saying, been struggeling a lot with this again lately, sometimes the eating/grocery shopping issues are worse depending on my mental state.

Thought I would just comment on what you wrote here about your habit of not eating all day. I often do this too especially as I am not really hungry unil midday, or at least I cannot have breakfast as most people would. I noticed however, that I can eat a tiny amount of fruit, half an apple or banana, which then leads to me actually eating around midday more likely or me actually getting hungry a bit later. It’s basically what I learned to prevent me from skipping meals all day and its quick and easy. Maybe it helps

My safe foods currently are rice crackers with peanut butter, apples and instant noodels. I have a jar with a mix of nuts and dried fruits always on display as well.

Don’t pressure yourself too much with all the stuff you think you should do. Give yourself time and acceptance that you’re not able to do it right now. The more you think about it, the worse it usually gets. Not sure if this is good advice but if you can’t tidy up, don’t. At least in my case sometimes I can’t do these things well so usually, I just go with it and accept it, so I just have a few bad days and embrace that I have a few really fucked up days but it also usually changes after a few days and I’m sick of how messy everything is and my tidy side kicks in again. , so I can at least get back to normal level of clean and tidy and keep the extra-household stuff for when my depression gets better. Could be that this is a ADHD causing and Autism helping thing, not sure.

Maybe try wokring on a different strategy with your therapist. Obviously the current one doesn’t help but instead makes you feel worse, which isn’t ideal.

Maybe it’s also about place, so maybe a change in surrounding would be good. Maybe going out and eat in a park or in a restaurant would help, or taking a walk before trying to prepare foods. Maybe you need to change something in your apartment so you get in the mood to sit on a dining table again or being in the kitchen. Reading about your situation, I can imaginge those places are maybe the ones that make you feel very vulnerable and sad as they might remind you of your ex and kids. So maybe try to make your kitchen a happy place again, but your happy place. Put something to look at that makes you happy etc.

If you can, try and go outside for walks in nature and find joy in small things, a bird singing maybe. Find some new hobbies that make you happy. I know this is hard, as usually you lose interest in everything with depression, but it will help improve your well-being.

And if you can’t do all of this, accept it, maybe you’re not yet ready for it mentally. There will be a time for it however, so keep this in mind.

Besides that, hope you can find some inner peace soon. Not the best times currently, so maybe try to avoid everything that makes you downward spiral, esp. world news. It’s not likely that something too dramatic will happen that effects your life directly and drastically as this politics is nothing but a big shit show, so they can live without your attention for a few weeks.

Aww, this is so cute! And lovely color for the skirt, am also a fan of linen.

I’ve been looking for some ideas for a blouse I could wear as is but also with a drindl, and those pintucks are a great idea to make this work. I’ll take some inspiration from that and make a few changes to a very similar pattern I own. Would you mind sharing details on length and height? I’m assuming around 12 cm length for each of them and waist is around 8 cm-ish, counted from top?

Guess I’ll make some alterations anyway, maybe even adding some around the neckline and in the back too, but a rough guide would be great, thx!

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self hatred fueled writing extravaganza. sounds familiar

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btw

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Yeah, I read it. Inisghtful, I wasnt aware China was involved as much in food deliveries and I’m surprised they grow that amount of actual tomatoes and not tennis balls dipped in red paint.

Just wanted to add my thoughts about that Europe-Discussion because I think there’s no point in blaming other countries for something thats not running 100% at home.

I mean, don’t get me wrong, I do in no way argue that we can just easily compare labour conditions in Europe with those in China. But the system beneath is the same, and that was my point I guess. It’s slavery and exploitation. Difference is maybe the political environment and the degree of human rights.

This food delivery situation is already a huge problem in Europe with monocultures, diseases and climate change and it will get even worse next year, after the floods in Spain.

Absolutely agree that we need more transparency. We need more transparency in oh so much.

Unfortunately, this is Europe-wide and beyond. E.g. in Germany, you then have workers from countries such as Romania etc. Many farmers growing veggies can’t afford just paying local people doing the work, even if they wish. Unless people will begin valuing food more again and pay the actual price needed to cover the expences that situation won’t change, but I guess most would just go for cheaper products, spend the money on consumer goods, the next holiday, or simply don’t have enough themselves once the rent is paid.

Adding to that, being a farmer isn’t really a valued job in society. I mean just compare salaries of someone working in IT with someone working on a veggie farm. Says everything. Question is just which of both is more important to survive.

Oh yeah right. I saw the same debate about fewer and less just a few days ago but its obviously not something made for my brain to stick. Thanks for pointing that out.

I feel like adding that /-♱-\ is a bit offensive tho.

Too true. In case of war, this is pretty much counter-intuitive.

Next they implement a paid version, where the more privileged people will get notified of the even better shelters.

If there’s one thing I want in my life it’s fewer Apps.

Had the same thoughts on this. Other countries in Europe take this responsibility a bit more serious, for instance Finland.

Also why an App? I’m sure checking my phone is very far down in my priorities list in such a case. I prefer Swedens approach, better to have info material printed out and ready with a bunch of other important documents.

There’s a time for every book to be read. Question is just when, sometimes it just doesnt feel right. But if its happening and you finally manage to read one of them, best feeling in the world.

thx for this community. it’s not just the Artworks but reading the comments as well… soothing.

Are you aware of lemmy.world blocking VPN connections? Might be the reason you aren’t able to post most of the time.