A software developer and Linux nerd, living in Germany. I’m usually a chill dude but my online persona doesn’t always reflect my true personality. Take what I say with a grain of salt, I usually try to be nice and give good advice, though.

I’m into Free Software, selfhosting, microcontrollers and electronics, freedom, privacy and the usual stuff. And a few select other random things, too.

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  • This would actually be better than most of my local broadcast TV.

    Oh, well. It’s certainly better than the following program. I believe it’s followed by the news and then some documentaries about nature and places around the world. The other channels go downhill fast. Some “breakfast” TV show with some poor souls who have to get up early to do some meaningless happy talking, recipes and maybe invite someone who once met a celebrity… Followed by a re-run of yesterday’s local news and other random stuff that’s cheap or still in the VHS deck… Idk. I suppose it’s meant for some 95yo bedridden grandmas who can’t escape. I believe no sane person with working limbs would turn on any broadcast TV in the morning.


  • Sure. I know like 5 in my city. One ontop of the main fire station, i think another one filming the inner city, several at a lake (which is a local recreation area). Someone used to capture his garden with a few trees and mostly the sky and clouds. And we used to have a bunch pointing at the traffic on the Autobahn, so you could watch traffic and brace for the ordeal before driving off to work. But they took the live feed down when the Russia/Ukraine war started. And of course ski resorts have them. You can turn on the TV and watch those ski resort webcams at like 6am on TV. Usually accompanied by some super annoying hillbilly music. 😆



  • Very good idea. I mean there are frameworks for programmers to do exaclty that, like LangChain. But I also end up doing this manually. I use Kobold.cpp and most of the times I just switch it to Story mode and I get one lage notebook / text area. I’ll put in the questions, prompts, special tokens if it’s an instruct-tuned variant and start the bullet point list for it. Or click on generate after I’ve already typed in the chapter names or a table of contents. Or opened the code block with the proper markdown. So pretty much like what you lined out. It’s super useful to guide the LLM into the proper direction. Or steer it back on track with a small edit in its output, and a subsequent call to generate from there.



  • Hmmh, yeah that further narrows down the list of potential candidates. I can’t give any good recommendation. To give some insight: Most people say their first time wasn’t good sex at all. It’s unfamiliar, you don’t know what to do, you’re stressed out and it doesn’t feel good etc. It’s certainly exciting and something to remember. But usually not enjoyable. And keep in mind losing virginity is a one-time thing. You can enjoy the look or habits or jokes of someone each day they’re around. The virginity thing is something you do one day and then it has lost it’s meaning in a way. Idk. Make of this what you will. I can sympathize with someone saying they don’t want to experience their first time with some random person but with someone special. I think that’s valid. The other way around is a bit more tricky. You can’t really expect that from someone. You can try. At the same time be aware of your high standards and expectations. That doesn’t mean you have to lower your standards. But you could squander a chance at meeting your potential partner if you’re not open to it. And these things happen if you’re focused on small details and that makes you unable to look at the whole picture of who someone is.

    And the last thing, we all can’t look into the future. Statistically, your first partner won’t end up being your spouse. It’s a nice romantic dream to marry your first love. But more something from a movie. So if you’re going for that, that could also turn out to be a fruitless endeavor. In any case, you’ll know in hindsight. But I really don’t know how much effort to put into making a fist relationship perfect. Maybe it’s a good idea to strive for it, but not be entirely crestfallen if it turns out differently.



  • Take care. I figure most people hear all phrases and empty words in situations like that. There might be something true in those phrases but I’m pretty sure they don’t light anyone’s mood. I think it’s completely valid to be picky with dates. I did the same. Also meant I was older than lots of my friends when I found a first partner. Like way older. But these go along. You can’t have it both ways.

    And reading through the other comments here, it seems you’re struggling with your own identity. Who you are, who you want to be and what makes you you… I can only say having had sex is not a big part of what defines someone. It’s mainly other things. And btw, if you hook up with someone and their main concern is whether you’re virgin or if your body-count is exactly right… They’re not paying attention to who you really are. They should like you because you’re interesting, or funny, have similar goals in life, or you’re a nice person, maybe someone to trust. Those are the important things about people. Focusing just on sex is for people who are mostly concerned with that. I’d say valid if you’re looking for someone for a one-night-stand, but next to unimportant to long term relationships.

    And with the other milestones in life… I think I already gave my perspective. All the find a girl, build a house, settle down and the proper ages for that originate from other people. You can choose to take it and run with that. Or these aren’t meant for you. Sometimes circumstances don’t allow for it, sometimes it turns out it’s not what makes you happy. And seems you’re not in a particularly bad place. You’re relatively young, you took care of your education and are about to graduate. You did a good job with that. I agree it’ll become harder to meet new people once you start an internship and then start working. And you’re at the correct age to re-evaluate your goals and what you achieved. We do that at certain times in our lives. Finding one’s identity is hard and a struggle. I don’t know your whole story. I mean if you’re otherwise well, feel free to explore and/or be who you are. Or change your mind about things. Just try to find your own interests and passions. And take your time with that. If it feels hard to do it, that’s because it is. (Disclaimer: All of that is just my perspective on life. Not necessarily true.)


  • We occasionally get similar posts here. You might be in a different situation than most of your peers. But certainly not the only one telling this story here on Lemmy. And at 24 you’re not even that old compared to other people who are 30 or past that and in a similar situation.

    Don’t pressure yourself too much. That’d be my advice. Life isn’t a competition in who has sex at what age. There is more to it. If you want to focus on career, if if you’re too busy or just introverted… That’s fine. If you’re unhappy and want a partner, go ahead and try to change something about it, go out and socialize, go dating. Just be aware society always tries to pressure us into doing things, like have sex, or a beautiful partner, or buy a big SUV or pickup truck or whatever. The thing is, you’re not everyone else but an individual. Go figure what’s good for you, and not what everyone else wants you to do. If you let them reduce you to that, that’s a sure way to become unhappy.

    (Edit: And I can empathize. Any fear of missing out is real. But usually things look more exciting and indispensable than they really are. And you can never change the past. Be a bit careful when growing up not to become some grumpy version of yourself who is just sad about the past and missed opportunities. It’s usually more healthy to focus on the opportunities which lie ahead, because these are the ones you can still take.)






  • Hmm, I still don’t understand. I mean if men want to be able to decide, too… being anti and wanting a law that strictly prohibits it for everyone, also strips them from the ability to make a decision. And additionally it’s not a compromise. Forcing someone to something regardless, e.g. bearing a child is one of the extremes, not some middle-ground in between… You’d need a proper reason to force people to do something. And that can’t be I want to decide over someone else’s life. So either it’s religuous or backed with some reasoning that’s more than an opinion, or just for the sake of it.



  • I suppose there are men who want an abortion, too. Right? I mean if some accident happened with the contraception and you find out a few weeks later when your partner misses their period. Or you have second thoughts. Or you need to finish your education before spending the next 15 years raising a kid and supporting a family right now… I believe there are quite some reasons for the man-side of things, to have an opinion?! I don’t think going nuclear on the options is a valid compromise for anyone?


  • Is it? I mean I probably live in a different culture than most of the people here. I don’t know that many people in real life who are opposed in the way I read from the news from overseas (or our more catholic neighbors). And what I’ve read that science has a differentiated stance on it. It’s okay up to a certain point and consequences need to be factored in and weighed… What else are reasons to be strictly anti-abortion?