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  • No one is entitled to you, to touch you, or to hurt you. Your time and compassion is a gift you choose to give to others not a thing that is ever owed.

    People can lose the privilege of access to you, and boundaries are ALWAYS okay and appropriate. Boundaries are even more okay and appropriate if you are being hurt - emotionally or physically. People repeatedly crossing your boundaries are people that are likely to continue to repeatedly cross your boundaries.

    A good partner doesn’t get mad when you go to things and have a good time. A good partner doesn’t need to convince you to stay with them, a good partner doesn’t repeatedly hurt you.

    This sounds like a person that you know is causing you harm and who is now trying to manipulate you to let them continue to have access to your or to harm you. I am sure the situation is more nuanced, and there are a lot of complicated feelings - but consider that things could escalate (and sound like they are escalating) to a point that they are hurting you FAR more or trapping you into a situation that they can prevent you from leaving. Please be careful, this sounds like a time to start considering worst-case scenarios to keep yourself from ending up in the hospital or dead. Do they have keys to your place? Do they have any weapons or access to them? Do they have access to your work? Do you have anyone to stay with for some time?

    You shared multiple examples here of finding happiness on your own, and juxtaposed those examples with sounding scared or harmed when you spend time with him. Please be safe.






  • Sending you positive thoughts. It won’t always be as bad as it is today - that’s hard to see when you’re suffering from it though.

    I hope you can catch a break, take some time to just tread water as you can.

    Lean on friends, and find anything to help keep your head above water. It’s okay to be struggling - it’s okay to be having a hard time. Look for the people who can help you get through things. It’s good to talk to people about how you are feeling.








  • Unquestionably Golang if those are the two options. It’ll give you a much better base to work with if you are still earlier in your career and is much more applicable to a lot of things.

    Elixir is niche, the syntax doesn’t share a lot of patterns with other languages, and no one is hiring for it. Also few people know it.

    I want to caveat my answer with that I personally really like elixir, and would prefer to work with it myself over golang for some types of problems. Actor patterns are really cool.



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    1 year ago

    I assume this just means “pick inside” without saying it directly. The sample photo is of an inside space. No? The two in the middle row, I assume, are the “correct” answer.

    Often the correct answer is only half the puzzle - how you answer (mouse movement) also can be to determine things