• sandbox@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      As a disabled person, “special” in reference to disabled people is imo one of the worst ableist slurs, I find it more offensive than retard. my experience isn’t universal, but I just wanted to let you know, I know it was just a joke and I don’t want to make you feel bad, but I have to be honest and say, it does hurt a bit to see it.

        • jorp@lemmy.world
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          4 months ago

          That person was as gentle and kind as they could be while sharing something with you to try to help you become a better person. You should do better.

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                  4 months ago

                  Honestly your commitment to the bit is winning me back over even though you’re objectively kind of a dick

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                    4 months ago

                    In all seriousness, where the line between funny and offensive is drawn is completely subjective. My line is obviously different than others. I didn’t feel that my puns were personally directed at anyone and I didn’t see them as perpetuating any harmful stigma or stereotypes. It uses a word I wouldn’t actually use in daily life but the pun wouldn’t work otherwise. Life has a lot of legitimate malicious people out there that there’s no need to split hairs to find more. There is no subjective way to look at what the IDF did in this case. It is objectively malicious and evil. I didn’t expect my puns to be the thing that upset people.

                    I thought of another joke. Being mindful, I’ve hidden the punchline. You’ve been warned!

                    Say the guy here was Hamas. Do you think he'd carry...

                    a .38 Special?