amazing article y’all lol

Meet 26-year-old Amy. She’s single, likes puppies and is looking for a date on Hinge. But it’s not just good-looking men she’s after; she “goes crazy for a free Palestine” – at least that’s what her dating profile says.

omg

Lauren cuts to the chase by simply saying: “No Zionists”.

the horror!?!

Lee wants to “make sure we’re on the same page about free Palestine”. So does Savanah. And Boris. And Michaela.

oh no!?!

the majority but many profiles I see now say ‘No Zionists’.”

AHHAHAHAHA

divorced, 59-year-old Stephen downloaded Hinge last summer. A few months of swiping later, Palestinian flags started appearing.

oh the humanity!?! poor Stephen!!!

“But if they’re saying ‘no Zionists’ that doesn’t leave much room for me.”

you guys already have a homeland, it’s called Brooklyn

“It’s like the signs that used to read: ‘No Blacks. No Jews. No Dogs. No Irish.’”

omg so true bestie, so true

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    people can share whatever flag they like, but the people who post ‘no Zionists’ are basically saying ‘no Jews’.

    Fuck you. Implying that all (or 99%) of Jews are Zionists erases anticolonial Jews, a few of whom I know, and many of us are tired of Zionists trying repeatedly to erase them from the narrative. Can you imagine what impression a Palestinian gentile would get from never encountering any anti‐Zionist Jews? What would she think?

    Zack, 35, says: “I got pretty disillusioned after I found myself consistently matching with anti-Zionists, even when I set it to ‘Jewish only’.”

    Is this article seriously conceding the existence of anti‐Zionist Jews while also equating Jews with Zionists? Am I reading this correctly?

    Jacob says: “I didn’t care before, but now I’ll make a bit more effort to try and find someone Jewish.” Like Zack, however, he has encountered anti-Zionist Jews.

    I am. Good. I’m glad that it is becoming increasingly difficult for the capitalist media to ignore anticolonial Jews, since that indicates that they’re growing in prominence.

    Zack put an [apartheid] flag emoji on his profile to rectify the situation. “It’s annoying because the more creative personalities I normally go for tend to be more anti-Israel.” Now he’s having fewer awkward conversations about the conflict, but the people he’s matching with are “less interesting”.

    This is my favorite part of the article.

    I have to admit, after reading this I am tempted to try Hinge. My previous attempts at using the Internet to find nearby love or friendship have been mostly unsuccessful, though, so I’m reluctant.

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      I’m sure it’s different everywhere, and I’m more or less a cishet man, but I used Tinder, Bumble, Okcupid, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, Taimi, Tumblr (not a dating app but hey I love crazy women so), and briefly Grindr, all in 2023, and I will say, Hinge at a glance seemed interesting and different, but it quickly became my absolute least favorite app–INCLUDING cesspools like Grindr or scam-filled PoF. It had the most incessant stream of painfully personality-less daddy’s money people I have ever seen. I can’t remember the specifics why but, it was also painfully difficult to match and actually talk to people because of artificial barriers and horrible location matches (recommending me people 500 miles away even when I try to set otherwise).

      Enshittification of everything, paywalls, and our toxic social/dating culture ensures all these apps suck to find love or friendship, but if I had to say the best, my personal recommendation would be Tumblr, Taimi, Okcupid, and Bumble in that order.

      Tumblr is not built to be a dating site but you meet all sorts of amazing people on there consistently. It would take a long time to get the ball rolling and actually finding people though.

      Taimi is touted as a queer website but is very straight friendly too. Many cool people on there. There’s also an actual POC presence as opposed to most other dating apps.

      Okcupid is kind of libby and filled with 30+ year old white artisan hipsters into therapyspeak and ethical non monogamy, but people actually have reading attention spans on there.

      Bumble doesn’t have a distinct flavor but it feels like the least-worst-of-all-worlds.

      Nothing beats vibes and happenstance, but sometimes it happens online, even in these sundowning days, I can attest to that several times over. Best of luck friend.