• BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.worldOP
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    9 months ago

    I think it’s different for bi people maybe, but I can say everyone i know who has done it has broken up.

    • MrJameGumb@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      I had a roommate who was bi and he moved like 4 states away to be in a poly relationship with like 5 other people and he moved into their house with them and everything. I saw an update from him that they had broken up and he was moving again like 3 months after that! It honestly just sounds exhausting

      • Pennomi@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        That’s not a poly problem, it is a possibility in any long distance relationship.

      • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.worldOP
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        9 months ago

        That sounds…gross.

        My friend moved to be part of a throuple across the country, with a husband and wife couple, and in two months he had kicked my friend out when she had nowhere to go.

    • Staden_ スタデン@lemmy.ml
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      9 months ago

      Me and my two boyfriends are bisexual. We have been on a long distance relationship for almost 2 years and there never was a issue with jealousy between us. We are a family. We love each other and all we want is to stay with each other.

      • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        I’ve been with my wife for 5 years and have been poly from the start. My gf and I have been together for nearly as long and her and my wife get along as do I and her husband

      • CapeWearingAeroplane@sopuli.xyz
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        9 months ago

        Out of curiosity, since they way you put it it’s “the three of us” which sound beautiful: How would you (meaning two of you) handle it if one of the others wanted to break out? I mean, break-ups happen, so I’m just wondering if you’ve ever thought about how you would handle being the “only two left” in that kind of scenario?

        • Staden_ スタデン@lemmy.ml
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          9 months ago

          Sincerely, I’ve never thought much about it. It doesn’t seem like something that would happen to us.

          But I have two friends who are a couple and have tried adding a third person to the relationship, but after some time this person ended breaking up with both of them. It was sad as any break up would be, but the two are still together.

      • undefinedValue@programming.dev
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        9 months ago

        It sounds like you might be a women from context, given you stated you are bi and have two boyfriends do you ever feel like you’re missing out on not having a girlfriend to fill in that need?

        • Staden_ スタデン@lemmy.ml
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          9 months ago

          There is no “need” to be filled. Having a girlfriend could be nice, but never during our time together I felt like I was missing out.

    • paddirn@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      This time it’ll be different though, I swear. Your sister is like family, it’ll be fine.