I’m normally not someone to post something like this, but in the spirit of contributing to the success of Lemmy, here goes:
This year for Valentine’s Day I included a large bag of my wife’s favorite chocolate as part of her gift. She happily put it in a bowl in our office so she could grab them while working.
Since then, I’ve been restocking the bowl whenever it starts getting low. I figured this would be a sweet gesture (no pun intended) that would put a small smile on her face once she noticed. Just a small thing to show how much I care about her.
Well, that’s not what happened. Yesterday she finally realized something fishy was going on with the bowl and confronted me on it. I admitted that, yes, I had been refilling it for her. She got upset, and said I’m an AH for “pranking” her like that. I tried to explain my reasoning, and I think it helped a bit, but she was still upset.
This is just devastating for me that my “kind” gesture could go so horribly wrong.
So, AITA here?
These comments in this thread are way too tame.
So let me pull out the beloved AITA cutlery set: She’s of course fully aware that what you did was not a prank but a loving gesture. She’s gaslighting you, so she doesn’t have to admit that she ate more than she should have and intended to eat in the first place. You should know that gaslighting is common manipulation tactic of abusers like your wife. You are NTA obviously and you should get a divorce. (Where the hell is the red flag emoji here?)
Lawyer up. Divorce her!!1!
Sorry, reddit habits die hard.
NAH (No Assholes Here)
What’s her relationship with food like? Has someone messed with her food before? It’s odd she jumped straight to prank rather than caring gesture. Seems you both handled a misunderstanding well.
INFO: why did she jump to the assumption that you were pranking her? Have you pulled pranks, jokes, teases, funny asides, or anything adjacent prior to this?