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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I just don’t understand what you mean by “good enough to replace Reddit.” Reddit is a space for a community to grow, one that has shown itself to be toxic.

    When you have a farm and find the soil to be toxic, you don’t keep growing new crops on it, you start over in a fresh field with new seeds that grow into a new farm. Yes, your yield will be significantly smaller for a good long time at first, but that’s just the effort required to keep a healthy farm.

    That’s what’s “good enough to replace Reddit,” and why Reddit itself isn’t good enough anymore; it’s not about the content the community makes, it’s about the safety and the security of the space in which the community grows. The content is just the byproduct of that growth.

    As for what you can do to help it grow, sure, most people can’t run their own community - myself included. But if you have the time to comment on this post, you have time to comment on a post from a growing community with only a couple active users, and maybe make a post every so often.

    That simple effort means now that community has a third active user, which paves the way for a fourth, and fifth, and so on. It’s not hours worth of work, it’s really just the same effort you’ve already shown in this one thread.


  • They’re not the only ones who forgot. It’s crazy how many people I know who shun the idea of any form of action beyond general protest in the face of corruption. I always ask them how they think change is going to happen when we have protest after protest and nothing to show for them, but they never have an answer. Things are going to get a lot worse before people realize we need to fight for our rights, and being angry on the internet - or even in person with a sign - is no longer enough to make a change.


  • I loved my small community subreddits, which is why I’m trying to grow them here. Reddit has shown that it doesn’t care about its users, which means that sooner or later those small subs will need to go elsewhere or be trapped on a site that just continues to get worse for its users. If you actually care about the communities you’re a part of, and not just about the content they produce for you, then help grow and uphold them here.



  • It’s just the ever-present need to feel unique. I feel like everyone goes through it.

    As we grow up we start to notice differences between ourselves and the average person. We rationalize this by assuming we’re unique, when really we just spend a lot more time thinking about our own differences than we do thinking about other people’s.

    The reason that sonder evokes such a strange feeling when it happens is because we’re usually not fully aware of the complexity of the people around us to the same degree as our own. We just pile those around us together into the category of “normal” people, while at the same time dissecting our own features to find every irregularity.

    From there, we feel the need to explain the differences, usually gaining a sense of superiority, like the common “not like the other girls” sentiment, or we feel ostracized and seek to find like-minded communities to join, such as the neurodivergant groups in this case.

    I’m not saying this person isn’t unusual in some significant way - I’m sure they are somehow - but this understanding of how habits work is pretty normal.