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    Ish. Dont shit where you eat. Its risky to play with coworkers, but really dangerous to play with your boss. I highly advise everyone NOT to do it

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      Ehh really depends on your boss. And honestly it depends on you also. If either of you can’t separate work from personal time then you really shouldn’t be hanging out. But for most of the bosses I’ve had, some lighthearted social time outside of work was perfectly fine.

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          Monopoly destroys families. That’s like the one game I will not play with my boss.

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          Please tell me you can play a single campaign without playing the horny bard, buying slaves, or torturing goblin prisoners

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            I have met enough players and DMs with whom I disagreed or got their bad side enough time to thank the fact that I was happy I wouldnt meet them at work the next day.

            Its the same thing as not working with your lover. If there is something wrong or bad happening at home, you dont wanna keep it going at work afterwards.

            But to answer you, yeah I can. Ill torture kobolds instead. /s

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              That kinda goes back to what I said about you also needing to factor in how well you and the other people can separate the two environments. If that is a personal limitation, then it’s best to understand it and manage it as you suggest.

              Personally I have no issue keeping work at work and home at home. There have been many times where my coworkers and I have had a tense week at work, full of disagreement and debates, only to hang out like bros on the weekend. There’s one coworkers who can’t make that separation, and that’s fine. They’ve realized it and I’ll respect that boundary.

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                I know how I can do it. And Im not going to risk finding out my boss cannot do it well.

                I have had good and bad bosses. Flying under the radar of bad ones is how you do it. And Im no lt gonna risk turning a good boss into a bad for a game, no matter if that game was the best ever.

                That is surviving.

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      Can vary. If they were all planning to come anyway, this is just hilarious.

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      That’s just silly. I DM for a group made out of two of my employees and two other people in different teams. It’s only brought us together more, now we do stuff for each other’s birthdays and have our own inside jokes and shit, there’s only been positive outcomes.

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    This is why you shouldn’t try and make friends with your boss. Too much of a power difference.

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      Imagine being a private and marrying a Major. She could just order me to mow the lawn, haha. she could order me to cook dinner every night and wear a slutty apron while I do it lol. She could order me to go down on her while she does paperwork and writes up punishments for other male soldiers under her command who have messed up during the week. She could make me lay down face up while she does pushups with her hands around my throat so she’s choking me out the whole time. Geez that would be funny, right guys? Haha!

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        Soldiers have the duty to disobey orders that are illegal or unconstitutional, so she could not make you wear a slutty apron because that would likely violate your right to personal identity.

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        Lol nice for real though the military does have fraternization rules to prevent (gestures vaguely) …that

        Officers can’t be in romantic relationships with enlisted members unless they were both in the same status when they got married. It can get you in legit legal trouble if discovered, especially if the person involved is in your chain of command aka one of your bosses.

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      Generally people don’t commit to a campaign if it’s not something they want to do. In my experience, the “scheduling conflicts” referred to are probably other responsibilities outside player control. I can’t claim to be intimately familiar with military life, but I presume they aren’t being ordered to supercede the players’ will to be there, but to take advantage of the military hierarchy to clear their play time from other orders.

      I play with the person who makes my schedule, and it’s awesome.

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      My boss is awesome. We hang out. You need to judge the situation since every situation is unique.

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              I was responding to someone that needed the obvious stated to them since they made a false blanket statement.

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                Someone said : careful with your boss, they have power over you.

                You said : silly, my boss is awesome

                So now here is my obvious question. What if said boss isnt awesome ? Worst, what is DND turns sour a good relationship like countless others ?

                Forget your awesome boss lucky dude and think about bosses in general. Think

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                  No, they didn’t say “careful with your boss.” They said “you shouldn’t make friends with your boss.” I made friends with my boss and it worked out just fine.

                  If you’re at the point of rephrasing things to win a stupid internet argument then I’ll let you have this one. I’m out.

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      Literally held a session with Captains and Majors yesterday. It involved a wet gap crossing.

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        I can’t tell if this is some weird euphemism, or they literally just had to cross a river and maybe got way too deep into tactics.